Start a daily journaling habit about your feelings.

Whether you buy an old fashioned paper diary that you like, put it on a set table to return to every morning, or you open a word document on your laptop, or a note on your iPhone, it always pays to start to do this every day. Make it a habit to for instance start with it or close the day off like this. You will get a grasp of your feeling life, you create a true relationship with your ever changing feeling life. Not to see this as the end all be all – not at all actually, it is more like creating the foundational necessity for doing the Twin Flame inner work, because you need have a relationship with with ACTUAL feelings for it, whether they are ‘acceptable’ or not. You will never be able to do correct Twin Flame inner work with fantasized or (worse) denied feelings as input in step 1. And you will never – I repeat: never – be able to reach your sustainable Union (that is your Harmonious Union) by avoiding the one and only correct Twin Flame inner work. This is all-in-all a great first step, it’s free and it doesn’t need to take more than 10 minutes per day, to perhaps 30 minutes if you like.

Write a love list about what you want your Ultimate Lover to be like.

Of course, your Twin Flame is who he/she is, and that’s that, BUT you can sort of predict who they are and what they are like, by researching your heart genuinely about what you desire in your ideal forever mate. Try to make a list of items about this and write it down. It doesn’t matter if it is a 6 point list or 6 pages long, do it however you feel right about it in your heart. Make it and look at it for a couple of days, weeks or months, if it holds up to your heart, or if you desire to make some adjustments to it, work towards a complete and eternally valid list, without the expectation necessarily that you need to have that task fulfilled any time soon or that your Twin Flame can’t come in before you feel you are there, but to just give this task a direction. When you find someone that has the potential to actually BE your Twin Flame in your life, you could get to know them a bit (speak with them, meet them 1-3 times, with boundaries that you feel are right) and then compare with your list. You could after a while even ring your list up in your relationship together and ask them to write theirs as well. Your twin Flame will be a large percentage to it, is the bottom line of it, provided you understand yourself correctly in who you are inside your True Union. There can be a part they have not yet developed because they also heal through meeting you and being with you – just like you experience you are! Start yours today. Integrate this practice with the feelings journal.

Example:

  • I desire a partner that is emotionally mature or desires to grow into that more together with me
  • I desire a partner that has a similar cultural background as me
  • I desire a partner that has a feeling for traditional role values between husband and wife
  • I desire a partner that brings in money and takes responsibility
  • I desire a partner that is a good father that is loving and leading his children
  • I desire a partner that genuinely loves and understands me
  • I desire a partner that prioritizes me in the right way, after God and himself
  • He takes care of his looks
  • He wants to have quality experiences together
  • He values health in a measured way
  • He values our date time and honors the creates quality time for us together on a regular basis such as going to a restaurant or an hour on the couch talking, a nature walk, not too often but when he does he is present with me
  • He cherishes me like a valuable addition to his life
  • He doesn’t complain about vain things
  • He is compassionate and non-judgmental
  • He values my openness about my abuse history and is proud of my healing
  • He is a serious professional in his own right
    He shares equally with me the leadership over our life together

NB

The ONLY way to make genuine steps towards your Union and beyond is via the KEY tool for Twin Flame inner work, supported by the 9-point energy work if you so desire. These are two preparatory and supporting practices.