When you have followed my blog or video’s for some time, you may realize I indeed come from a deeply traumatized and traumatizing, profoundly mentally, emotionally and sexually ill family background. To grow up inside of that context, knowing nothing else as is the norm for children, made me function very off as a grown up as a result. The Twin Flame healing journey brought all these trauma’s up as a result of doing the inner work, it was simply the truth of what had happened. It was brought up to see and feel fully, to then be released to never return: an order of healing through grief that has inner logic and functions conform how we are build on the soul level.
Now, here’s the thing: this is not unique at all. Almost everyone has these kinds of things. Even when our family thinks they are so healthy. Even when we ourselves think you had a pretty acceptable childhood. You probably hadn’t. It is engrained in our cultures and societies to actually not have compassion for children, to push undesired emotions onto them, offer their lives up for the consumption of some adult favor in an emotional, mental, sometimes even physical and/or sexual way. And I am not talking about outright satanists, baby blood drinking underground societies, or the scum of society that has no moral ideation at all. I am talking about the silent and normalized child abuse that lies in having unwanted children, neglecting them, manipulation, triangulation, rejection, emotional abandonment, being put down, not given basic needs even when there is no poverty and so on.
And that may even still sound like too much for many people. Meaning: it may not sound recognizable, because they themselves have normalized how they were treated, even learned to see it as love. That is because children are born with an innate desire and ability to love their parents – and this very ability is often hijacked by parents that did not have enough self love, so now they can be loved by their children in some subtle way, stealing from your natural giving nature, thus installing a mentality into you that manipulates you to give for the ability to have a self in the eyes of the other, of society. The ability to form a self is by many parents taken away from you by interfering in the process of toddler individuation, resulting in narcissistic tendencies.
Whatever it is exactly for you, will come out of your inner work, that is primarily about another layer in you, the spiritual layer, but carries inside of it also the capacity (even the necessity) of healing your psychological self as well. Don’t be surprised you find out that you were abused, that there is trauma. Trauma simply meaning hardened patterns that work against the natural full flow of your psychology in some way or another, subtle or blatant. Almost everyone has them and you can get rid of them. The KEY exercise in itself can do so, especially under guidance, plus I use a specific trauma healing version of it for those I work with sustainably, since April 2024 with the permission of the Christ Masters I co-create the conscious state of Harmonious Twin Flame Union with.
Some fitting video’s:
How I used wardrobe healing for inner child healing https://youtu.be/6tXeRFzbVv0
The end of childism: https://youtu.be/Tv49swlng58
Molochs oven https://youtube.com/live/Mxt-D5VR64E
I want to add that preverbal trauma or early trauma can lead to psychosis on the Twin Flame journey because you open up to everything that is unbalanced to come up to be healed. You must however see it it as a temporary happening that will pass, when you allow it to be released from you without starting to puzzle and manipulate with the idea of ‘what is a psychosis and what to do about it’, because it is not something to avoid or suppress, but rather something to move through to the other side of it where it will be over in a way that makes you healthy, when you keep on following the Twin Flame inner work. I made 2 video’s in which I touch on the topic of psychosis on the Twin Flame journey:
1 https://youtu.be/P9ASM-bTnb8?si=ozDPQvuwDxAC3TAm
2 https://youtu.be/k3bdxBsBEKU?si=WESSRTzlluGjR6ho
Often only when it comes to psychosis, people get alarmed, but the way it was all wrong inside of you beforehand, still gets a pass for the norm, because you still function in step with societal expectations there. For sure, it is not at all roses and sunshine in the before stage at all, because the psychosis only comes up when there was a lot of trauma when you grew up; it was rather the opposite of roses and sunshine for sure and that is proven because there was a psychosis that came from it! So, here’s the thing: I started off this article by saying it is rather clear that I come from huge trauma and mental and emotional illness, BUT that is not what anyone else in my family would say, nor was it clear when you looked at things from the outside. We were actually regarded as rather normal. Things are often not how they look.
You’re not healthier when you’re still suppressed, than when your psychosis episode comes along; rather the opposite! You’re at least on your way towards full integration. Just understand you need extreme self care on the way.
And then again, why would this be so universal, on the genuine Twin Flame spiritual journey, even in any genuine inner work? Because people in general really think it doesn’t really matter how you treat children, you can just let them cry it out as babies and beat them as toddlers and make them afraid as children (and the very many more detrimental but normalized techniques) without consequences and look successful as parents because this is effective for the result they are seeking which is compliance (but at the very cost of health and sanity for the child). People believe this is the norm, their former generations have all done it like this and they will agree with how they were raised without awakening to the hard it has done to them and taking the effort to break these patterns. It remains unconscious how hurt they were, they are successful in the suppression this requires, which is often in line with what societal and social success also looks like, so no rewards are to be acquired by deviating from this norm on the surface level. Everyone unconsciously acts out how they were treated as a child, with their children, whether it is technically abusive or not, and more often than not it actually is.
It takes effort to awaken out of that, and gut wrenching courage to allow oneself to stop these awful ‘traditions’. For most, this is not worth it, in a world that judges you on material success and how it looks on the outside.
It is on the Twin Flame journey only that you genuinely and exclusively commit to feeling good on the inside and follow this different outlook on what success is to the ‘extreme’ deemed consequences of inner child health and sanity and far far far beyond.
Choice is up to you.
What we do to move successfully through the actual Twin Flame journey including the above discussed healing, is use the KEY tool for Twin Flame inner work, supported by the 9-point energy system, BUT this is then defined on the spiritual life layer, and when we look at the psychological layer of life, that is ‘below’ that or ‘inside’ that, alone, for a moment, to make sense of all the above discussed – which is not unimportant at all!!! – what makes sense to call it what to successfully do is this: grieve.
I hope this helps!
NB I have used the word psychosis to be extremely clear (and not necessarily clinically correct because, see the paragraph underneath), but there are also gradients possible in that direction and the story is still valid, such as dissociation, and one more step fantasy, and one more step psychosis.
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